Poppy has stage 4 lung cancer. We know that it is in the bones of his chest/ribcage. It is fibourous, so radiation is out of the question. It is un-opearable. Chemo may be an option if they stop the fluid. The fluid is from lots of cancerous cells that are leaking. They may try to stop the leaking by sealing the chest cavity wall to the lung wall. A VERY painful procedure I am told. We are waiting for a cat-scan to see where else it may have spread. And that will determine if they do this sealing procedure. Then they can give him mild chemo to make him comfortable.
He is having trouble breathing today. And, is very confused. He is in danger of dying now. As in NOW. My MIL does not understand. When my dh mentioned Hospice she kinda freaked and said that is where you go to die. So, we are feeling that if this sealing procedure works, and by the grace of god they let him out, he will probably come to my house. And, she wil have no choice….
I won’t even discuss my SIL. Except to say she will be sorry she waited so long….But we all make choices and she chose not to come before now. She is still waiting until Thurs. DH will be telling her that she should come now.
My niece, K, is in Italy, and my SIL did not tell her about the cancer before she left. I hope he hangs on and is the Poppy she knows whenever she gets here. Another reason I am pissed at my SIL.
That’s really bad, Nancy, but that’s how it works. Someone headstrong like your FIL will be able to put treatment off almost until the final moments. He had to have been in a lot of pain the past month or two–if not longer.
I’m so sorry Nancy. It’s tough when there aren’t many options. I hope that he’s able to hang on until his family can be with him.
Sorry to hear the news hun. I dont even have good or chipper words either.
That’s horrible, awful news. Ugh, I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope he hangs on for your neice, but realistically, I feel so bad that she didn’t get to say goodbye to him. I would be upset with your SIL, too.
That is truly so sad. My SIL passed away a few years ago from lung cancer and it was horrible and painful not just for her - but for everyone in the family to watch.
Hugs. My thoughts are with you.
A difficult time for all concerned; ie, mother in law who can’t take it in and sister in law who won’t. And you who can see so much more…